bitty bits

video: how to take good nudes (full)

dating app mishap…

Q. I saw someone my friend is dating on a dating app, do I tell them? A. The world becomes super small when reduced to a 5 or 10km radius. It’s inevitable to see people we know - with fewer and fewer degrees of separation  - on dating apps.   With…

is flirting emotional cheating?

Q. I love my partner, but I often get gratification from flirting with other people. I would never cheat, but I feel bad seeking this type of attention - I also get a thrill out of it. Is this emotional cheating A. I’m going to unpack this question in a…

sex skills…

Q. How do you feel more confident in the bedroom, whether you’re single or in a relationship? A.  I’m going to go out on a limb and assume this question is asking about S.E.X and isn’t referring to pajama choices… although, that could play a role in increasing confidence! There…

no such thing as “the friend zone”…

Q. My friend likes me, but I don’t like them back.  How do I shut this down without losing the friendship? A. You might lose the friendship.  At least for a time. I blame rom-coms and fairytales for leading us to believe otherwise.   It’s not to say this isn’t difficult…

the joy of getting off

Q. How do you have a frank discussion with your partner about getting off, if they really aren’t getting the job done.   A. Many of us have been here - I’ve always thought of a lover’s tactics, as a window into what their past lovers have enjoyed (I hope!!!)  This…