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  1. is monogamy, for you?

    Q. Polyamory: myth, excuse, or saviour?  A.  Maybe 2 out of 3… but it’s definitely not a myth! First, some useful distinctions. Polyamory is when someone has multiple (romantic/sexual) relationships simultaneously - all with the consensual knowledge of those involved. This knowledge may have agreed upon terms unique to individuals/their…

  2. to tell or not to tell…

    Q. I have genital herpes, do I have to tell potential partners when I’m not having an outbreak? A. From an informed consent perspective, the short answer is yes, this is an ideal. I say that with full acknowledgment and compassion for the challenges often met by folks who are…

  3. dating app mishap…

    Q. I saw someone my friend is dating on a dating app, do I tell them? A. The world becomes super small when reduced to a 5 or 10km radius. It’s inevitable to see people we know - with fewer and fewer degrees of separation  - on dating apps.   With…

  4. sex talk: how to…

    Q. How do I encourage my inhibited partner to be more comfortable talking about sex? A. Whether it is in order to establish clear and enthusiastic consent, gauge sexual compatibility, or simply because it’s a turn-on, talking about sex with partners is so important!  That said, one of the most…

  5. is flirting emotional cheating?

    Q. I love my partner, but I often get gratification from flirting with other people. I would never cheat, but I feel bad seeking this type of attention - I also get a thrill out of it. Is this emotional cheating A. I’m going to unpack this question in a…

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